JOSETER

Love and marriage are not the same. Stepping into a marriage where a couple cannot maintain a symbiotic relationship, the marriage is destined to struggle badly or fail completely. When it survives, it does so at the cost of one or both partners' emotional well-being. Take time to reflect and discuss every aspect of your relationship, both with yourself and your partner, before stepping into serious commitments. A life filled with regret is not only draining but also unfair to both people involved. Marriage eroding love is one of the most painful experiences.

When you stand for an ideology, if you can recognize the truth in people that don't support your beliefs, and if you can see through flaws in your ideologies and beliefs, you are growing beyond ideologies.

Do not harden your beliefs each time you listen or read to something that's against yours. The harder your belief system transforms, the more away you get drifted from the truth. Hold on to your beliefs, have them challenged and be open to criticisms and ideas contrary to your beliefs. That's how you make your beliefs stronger, however paradoxical it may sound. And do not become instrumental in others hardening their beliefs that resonate with yours or otherwise. The more knowledgeable one becomes, the closer one gets to the reality of how farther away one is from the knowledge itself.

When your last bit of human dignity is stripped off of you, you would either become an animal or a spiritually elevated self. Suffer well. "There is only one thing that I dread: not to be worthy of my sufferings." - Dostoevski

You read, learn and brew different ideas and when that is an ongoing process, initially you are not sure how to construct your new ideas into well-articulated or well-constructed concepts. Maybe they are just half-assed and not ready to shine in a debate. Most times it's like things you read, grasped, and brewed all have faded and you don't even remember them anymore sharply. What I come to realize is, it's not faded from your memory. It's sitting there comfortably and waiting for something else to ignite a spark (from whatever source) so it can catch fire and become wild. It's all sitting there...maybe a new article you are reading..maybe a particular chapter from the current book you are reading..maybe an unusual conversation with someone... Something's gonna create a wildfire out of it. It's sitting there...waiting for its moment...keep exploring so it finds its source quickly.

Whichever part of the spectrum you fall, for your arguments about your reality to be sharp, you become the seeker of objective truth however deep it cuts through. You will get a better understanding of the world when people from different part of the spectrum produces their cases sharp that's backed with reason. Arguments without reason are just noises and half-assed exaggerations which have their place but need to be ignored when you are seeking the ultimate solution. For one's intuition to work for him/her the facts and learnings about reality should be objective. When graphs are produced by optimists about our ignorance towards the fact that the world has improved on several fronts like literacy rate, poverty, lifetime expectancy, etc., the question I am left with is...at what cost? A person who's both worried about human welfare and environmental hazards at the same time doesn't make much sense... because the current dynamics we have created simply translates...

There are two categories of people. One is amongst the confused, not knowing where they belong, but feel certain inclinations which some say good, and some say bad. The ones that fall into the next category are the ones who create a sense of belonging to the first category, justifying their inclination and world views based on reason or superficial voodoo..either way, the first category people resonate with those justification arguments and feel empowered to identify themselves with a community (slave to their doctrine and dogmas). This is the story of every other community you have heard of or the ones you proclaim affinity to. Whether you believe in god or not, you have a side you can join to fight the ones that go against your beliefs.

Before you go into the world defining what you are to the world. Know thyself. Learn how ridiculous you are.. analyze your shadow side to see how dangerous you are.. understand how silly and egoistical you are. Once you have a grasp of your true nature, you will come to realize you are not as pathetic or ridiculous or dangerous after all (as you feared to be secretly in your everyday imaginations). Living with the fear that you could be a dangerous person, without measuring the depth of it manifests into the danger itself. Failing to understand your unexplored territory just remains a dangerous place in your head with moral values for your choice of weapon or shield to show the world you are a good soul. This leads you on a path where you live an entire life faking a persona that really isn't you and defending it with a belligerent vehemence.

We are under social contracts when we signup to function along with a society or a community. The dawn of civilization was based on the equation where individual's participation in a group collectively decided the fate of a group, good or bad. The idea of individuals making choices for themselves or putting themselves first meant blasphemy. With this construct we have evolved over thousands and thousands of years and now our evolution gives space for any individual to function autonomously while still very much being a constructive part of a group or a commune. Now this conflict between the autonomous liberty and the age old concept of putting wellness of your group first is our human condition. It feels like unicellular organisms evolved to be multicellular to create even more complex unicellular organisms and the process expands on and on!

I so want to be in some place where birds and animals are not intimidated by people. That speaks a lot about a society's personality.

Give yourself a clap, for you are a gene that survived billions of years of unsympathetic tests you were put through to see if you are worthy enough to be a part of evolution and you still exist. Billions of species came into existence and perished, but you are still standing. You survived every roadblock evolution threw your way. You still exist! Did you? Your species' victory..can it be attributed to you? Millions of worthy species that proved their worthiness in terms of adaptability to survive are now going extinct not because they have suddenly become unworthy but your species' parasitic behavior chooses the worthy ones to perish and unworthy ones to thrive. Artificial selection in its full swing is what it is. You are not worthy just because you exist. Become truly worthy of your existence by always seeking out objective knowledge and truth. Burdens your mind with objective truth that brings deep awareness, and unburden your mind through sound actions. ...

The obsession to attain the balance between freedom and discipline leads a person to possess practical maturity. A person with freedom but without discipline wanders aimlessly and fails to tap into his or her infinite potential, ends up not amounting to anything of significance. A person with discipline but when fails to acknowledge freedom of self, will not only fail to enrich their lives but also stands in the way of the evolution of his or her species. Without attaining the balance between freedom and discipline one cannot play a constructive part in a society's politics. Like every individual has their own personality, every society has its own. Quite often the concept of freedom and discipline are polarized by two divisions of people who recognize themselves as left (freedom) and right (discipline). From childhood, we are fed stories after stories about what is good and bad, what is just and unjust, so on and so forth. This basically lays the foundation for solid world views ...

Sending off your beloved one to the war (in reference to 1939 WW2), you as a mother or wife, you would be careful what you wish for. You don't wish in your heart for him to come back soon. Coming back could mean he is getting back to you in a coffin box before the war is over. Though you know the war is eating him bit by bit in all possible ways. Though you know he will never be the same person once you knew dearly..now slipping away and deteriorating physically and mentally. You still make your wish carefully with the deepest pain that keeps you awake at nights...you still want him in one piece and alive. Good or bad. You wish him to be there as long as the war is won or over and get back to you in one piece.

From womb to tomb, we are bound to others, past and present, and by each crime and every kindness, we birth our future. David Mitchell (Cloud Atlas) You were in a hunter-gatherer tribe once. You had to fight for your survival and your tribe's from dangers of all kinds that lurked in the jungle. You have tamed yourselves to become this civilized and evolved being. Your dangers have taken their subtlest form now. You are not fighting for your survival anymore. Animals in the jungle no more pose a threat to you, they are the ones who need protection from you. Fights to fill your stomach is no more a struggle, but gluttony is! With all the comforts and pleasures if you presume you are safe and protected, your naivety is sinking you into a dark and steep abyss that's waiting to steal your soul. It is now more than ever you have a need to fight, fight for survival, survival of your truth. The essence of this evolution is always at stake and the few enlightened souls are the o...

A black cat crosses in front of us left to right. My friend says, "it's a bad omen! we should stay indoors". I dump him at home and go about my business. When I come back I find him sitting in a chair with a bandage all over his right hand! Slipped in the bathroom and broke his hand he says. I am petting the black cat while listening to the story.

Damn I want to swim.. I want to feel alive in water... imagining myself glinding through water... going under and gliding through the pressure...ah this imagination makes me ecstatic. Do I know how to swim? I believe I can, but I cannot say with utmost certainty that I could. Do I know how to find a pool to swim? I am intuitive like a bird in finding my way, so I guess I could. I spread my wings, unleash my birdy instincts figure out my way and find a pool. I go near the pool and I can't contain happiness. Just the thought that I am here, I have found a nice pool is making me euphoric. I want to make my joy known so I am jumping and shouting with joy. People that swims hardly notice me as if they have seen this happen many times before. I lost my intention as to why I was here! What I care more is this feeling I am experiencing and shouting like a mad person that I am blissed out. I dip my feet into water sitting on the sides of the pool..I start writing about "how t...

When I was told I looked like a lost writer from one of old my pictures it felt nice. But the thing is that...I was not lost nor was I a writer! Never have that thought bothered me until tonight. Every year I am chasing my never ending dream to become rich and sound financially. But this year looks more like a trade for literary knowledge which I wished I had, without even understanding what it meant all my life. Tonight is the night (Feb 24 2020) I bought the book for screenplay writing by Syd Field. Tonight is the night I keep watching Woody Allen movies. Tonight is one of those nights I fret strongly about becoming a screenplay writer. All I need to know is will I be able to pause my money pursuit to gain something else instead?

My life's purpose is not achieving happiness. Happiness is only the out come..it doesn't hold clear answers to what I want to be doing per se. Clarity comes when your purpose by itself defines your process that leads to the outcome. Enriching our lives with knowledge is my sense of purpose. The rest will take its own shape just by acquiring this. Becoming wealthy, contributing positively to nature, being voice for voiceless and living a life with enriching experiences all comes from it.. which on the whole fill our lives with happiness.

You can live a life of a massively successful person in your 30s, when you are only destined to make your massive success at the age of 50! Take a disciplined approach towards your goal and you will soon realize micro/macro success (monetarily), people's respect (for the person you are or for what you're building) and a lifestyle that accommodates lavish. Achieve this and you are already living a life of a highly successful person. Your success could happen when you are 30 or 40 or maybe 50. Quality of your life remains the same through out if you lay the foundation right. I want to lay a foundation that takes me to success without unnecessary struggle.

How many times have you heard people or family and friends saying “don’t be judgemental”? Without judging how can you have a strong opinion about anyone or anything...Judgement is a key factor for making better choices. If you are not being judgemental, all you possess is some processed opinion some judgemental guy cooked up for you...and the choices you make in your lives will be based on that - don’t you smell a sheep there!? Someone who is a pussy aka sensitive is the one who says not to be judging...if you don't want people to judge you.. become better. You will not give a damn when you know you are awesome. It's alright to let some people gravitate away from you for keeping things real and raw. Build a community that understands and trusts you at every level...push others away without hesitation. Instead focusing on not being judgemental..focus on being a better judge.